Moving on from Despair
I haven’t blogged for nearly 3 weeks partly because of our local
bush fire emergency that sapped my energy, partly because I haven’t felt I had
anything worth posting, and for the last ten days I've been enjoying a warm break away from the mountains,with lots of
belly laughs with my daughters and grandchildren, reminiscing and photographs.
Here is an exquisite one that greeted me when I returned home.
I am eager to allow the unfolding of my voice, in a new way-I feel an urgency to do this.In my third chapter, I often ask myself the
question “have I reached my potential?”, or “have I used all of my talents?” And
by writing here I am in some way having a relationship with this unknown place.If I pay attention in deep silence, I know I will be further awakened into a
new chapter of my life within no time. As a result I can then be
a facilitator for others in discovering their own voice, their uniqueness. This
can be anything from growing a flourishing garden, to co-ordinating a community
service, or continuing to work in a job you love in the work world.
But first we have to choose life. Begin the conversation. The point is, says
David Whyte, is to “start close in”, and approach our life with a frontier attitude,
though he acknowledges it is difficult to take that first courageous step.
Today I want to focus on choosing to move on from a feeling of DESPAIR about the world, to a more optimistic one.Despair can keep us from action. If we are engaged in different forms of
social media, listen to the news, or read newspapers we are constantly bombarded
by images and stories (injustice and violence)that can numb us,or tug at our
heartstrings (animal cruelty). And just now, the terrible disaster from the typhoon in the Phillipines, where children have been torn from their parents arms -I cannot imagine how this would feel.
From my own experience, some activities that move me on from the
energy of despair are regular opening to stillness in my heart, being in my
garden where I am in awe of its beauty and creatures, consciously recalling parts
of my life in detail that were joyful, or phoning a family member or friend to ask
about their day. I also CHOOSE to
remember all the mentors and teachers who have shared their wisdom, encouraging
us to approach despair from a different vantage point, to transmute this energy
into a more creative outcome, i.e. being with like-spirited souls, or visioning
an optimistic future.
It takes dedicated effort.In discussion with my daughter this last week about
a number of Facebook posts that we found hard to digest, she acknowledged her
despair, about not wanting to be “here” as she felt so deeply for the animals
and people. Another way to approach
despair, advises author May Sarton, is to make myths of our lives, believing it
is the only way to live without despair, so I have returned to reading Bedtime Stories for Elders: What fairy tales
can teach us about the New Ageing, by John C Robinson, to help my process.
I chanced listening to Lisa Wilkinson’s ‘lecture’ in the Andrew
Olle Lecture Series the other day, the second female journalist to
deliver it in 16 years! Towards the end
she despaired time and time again, on the topic of women and girls in the
media. I was moved by her story. You can
read her full lecture here where she ends on a positive note, honouring so many
talented women. http://www.abc.net.au/local/stories/2013/10/25/3876439.htm.
With heartfelt appreciation if you have read to this point. I do hope there is some little gem here for you.
Thank you Mariana - It has indeed been a difficult time in the Mountains - and now reading about the Typhoon in Manilla - there is no security in our physical comforts ultimately and I strongly feel the need to strengthen my inner life. The question is how and there are many paths...I am feeling the need to get back into art so we will see.
ReplyDeleteMy heart is with you Judy, as yes, especially returning to painting and strengthening your inner life will support you, and of course, connecting regularly with friends.
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