Positive Ageing - a State of Mind
Growing
old gracefully ...disgracefully ... outrageously ...or whatever other term
that's been used to embrace ageing in the last few years, has now
been replaced with a more optimistic term "Positive Ageing"
- the principles of the Positive Psychology movement.
Our
ability to have a more positive experience, compared with peers who
are perpetuating the old paradigm (that ageing is fraught with misery),
has a lot to do with our attitude, personal qualities and
flexibility.
Cultivating
flexibility I think is a key indicator of how we reframe our lives in
these years. It requires us to feel and think differently, to counter
any maladaptive patterns by engaging in life-enhancing practices.
Some of these are altruistic, others may be practising gratitude, and
appreciating what you have to offer to the world.
Go
on now, write a list of your qualities, skills and resources! And
think about how some of these could be used creatively to enhance
your life or the life of others.
For
instance, in the last 2 months I've become immersed in intuitive
painting. I've always been creative, but never gave myself permission
to paint. Having said that, I've gone without a few other needs to
achieve this. The JOY I've felt, plus the wellness benefits
that flow on from this, are priceless - my daughter commented recently that she notices a difference in my being. So as well as it benefitting
myself, I intend to offer it to other women in the near future so that they too can benefit.
Do
you also have a gift or experience to share? Resources you could
utilise? A new skill you could learn this year?
Jean Shinoda Bolin encourages us to turn to the Greek Goddess, Hecate, who can midwife us if we face a major transition, or need to birth new aspects of self. A Hecate woman is also one who pays attention to synchronicities and dreams and draws upon past experiences and intuition for guidance.
Jean Shinoda Bolin encourages us to turn to the Greek Goddess, Hecate, who can midwife us if we face a major transition, or need to birth new aspects of self. A Hecate woman is also one who pays attention to synchronicities and dreams and draws upon past experiences and intuition for guidance.
These
years don't have to end in illness, regret or worry. Most often we
need to adapt to possible declining health or stamina, but we CAN adapt. We can choose to embrace life-enhancing choices over ones
that limit us. If we marry these with our values, and choose from
our heart, we're better able to live fulfilling and meaningful lives
way into our 90's. Whatever ailments we might experience, there's a
way to still enjoy our lives, but maybe a little slower.
I'm
finding that my mind is just as sharp as it was 20 years ago, though
sometimes a word or two takes longer to recall. Our mature minds
also work better in later life - we use the left and right
hemispheres together more effectively. New learning is great for our mind, and we
need to exercise it, as Joan Baez says as she begins her Forever
Young song.
A couple of times when I've needed a pick-me-up I've played this song!
Lastly,
don't forget to call forth more LOVE into your life. Did you know that
love increases our endorphins and endogenous cannabinoids? It also increases the secretion of nitric oxide that allows our arteries to
relax, reduces your blood pressure, and improves circulation. Love also improves our DNA, enhances our wellbeing, and
inspires us to care for self.
Being open to love, loving self, loving others and your life, is the key to positive ageing, in my opinion.
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